Soooooo....the problem with Please and Thank You is…there is
no problem with them! The problem is
YOU! Okay maybe not you, per se…but it’s
the spoiled, the rotten, the selfish, the “too comfortable”, and the elitist.
Yup…I said it! The ELITIST…those who
are so used to getting what they want that they forget who, what, when, where,
and why they received the blessings in the 1st place.
All uh dem!
For some reason people forgot their manners and decided
that, pleasantries are no longer required in business and personal life. But Please doesn’t suffer as much as Thank
you though! Oh no! Thank you is almost taboo, non-existent, a
“Lockness Monster” or “Bigfoot” that you hear about and read about but only
comes out when no witnesses are around.
Now some may say that when it comes to business, the check
should be Thank you enough…touché!
However, we don’t always receive monetary compensation when conducting
business. Sometimes we are networking,
connecting dots, forwarding helpful articles, bartering, giving advice, or
congratulating someone on a job well done.
Guess what’s supposed to come next? Thank you!
It’s bad enough we rely on smart phones and social media…but do we have
to lose common courtesies too?
You mean to tell me that the newest and trendiest thing out
right now is to take without acknowledgement?
Receive without appreciating?
Benefit without giving back?
Accept without saying a motherfucking THANK YOU?
So what if we nice people decided to flip it? A wise person told me TUH DAY, “as soon as a
person stops thanking you…that’s when you stop. “ What do you think? Is this good advice? But I don’t want to change who I am because
you don’t have manners…you feel me? And
as a person who gives and gives and sometimes doesn’t receive the same type of
efforts, encouragement, hook-ups, or niceness in return, AT MINIMUM, I'd
appreciate and expect a Thank You.
Yes, you read correctly…I used the word, EXPECT. People say that you should give without
expecting anything but I call, bullshit!
We should definitely give because we want to, because we can and/or out
of the kindness of our hearts…but I don’t know many or anyone who wouldn’t want
to be acknowledged or thanked. Now of
course I’m not talking the about the Saints who live among us and the good
anonymous Samaritans who do good things and vanish without a trace. I am talking about the average person…those
who we communicate with, work with, talk to, like, and love.
You’re making it harrrrrrrrrrd on us who want to do good
things because we want to do good things!
And I don’t know if it’s because you’re living in a bubble, too busy or
too oblivious to realize it. But,
without a simple thanks, you suck the positive energy out of that gesture that
was made just for you. You also can make a person feel like your undeserving of said gesture and any future ones that may have had your name on them.
So listen here! Next
time someone does something nice for you, says something nice to you, or
because of you…say, Thank you.
It should roll off your tongue with ease. Think of it as dessert after a well-cooked
meal or that unexpected check you received after doing a good job. You thank God, you thank your credit
card for working when you get to the register after you've OD'd at Target…you even thank Hollywood writers you’ve never met after
something good comes on your TV! So go
ahead…thank your friend for that advice, your co-worker for picking up your
slack, that person who complimented you on your outfit of the day, your
Follower for leaving a comment on your blog,
your homie who just wanted to check on you, your family for putting up with you, your colleague for those tickets,
that associate for the referral, and him or her for being that shoulder to cry
on or ear to vent to when things may not go your way. Don’t forget those you pray for you and the
ones who cheer for you.
Thank them. Now thank
me.
...and Thanks for reading.
CMJ
THANK YOU CLAUDIA!
ReplyDeleteI read this in your voice. lmao. I hear you and thank you!
ReplyDeleteI like how you have my quote in there! When they stop thanking, you stop doing. Sometimes it's for their own good. You have to bring them back to reality and let them know they may need your kind heart and spirit. I know you and know your heart, You are as genuine as they come. For real. I don't know many like you but I'm glad to know you and have definitely benefited from that kind and fiery heart of yours. So passionate and true. You deserve all that you give and then some. Thank you for everything and than you for being you. see you soon!
ReplyDeleteWOW! This was good. And I can tell you meany every word. Thanks!
ReplyDeleteCLAUDIA! LOLOL! YOU SAID THANK THEM NOW THANK ME. WHY YOU SO SASSY!? HAHAHAHAHA! I LOVE IT. THANKS! SEE I SAID THANKS!
ReplyDeleteYou go so hard with that big heart of yours! "Accept without saying a motherfucking THANK YOU?"
ReplyDeleteDAMN! I felt it here in WPB! Miss you girl! And thanks for the birthday card. But I called you so don't say I didn't thank you. Lol
Oh and it's Lori! Forgot to sign my name. Thank you!
DeleteThank them, no thank me. Bitch youre good. LOL! Thank you!
ReplyDeleteThank them ,now thank me is some Olivia Pope Scandal shit. I love this! You are so damn honest in your writing. I may be wrong but I feel like someone rubbed you the wrong way but instead of fighting them, you chose to educate the masses on the importance of something as simple as a thank you. We all need lessons. Thanks!
ReplyDeleteThought I was going to be 1st to comment! This was so good Mocha! Thank you!
ReplyDeleteGood job, sweetheart.
ReplyDeleteThank you!
ReplyDeleteThank you!
ReplyDeleteYour absolutely right. Thanks!
ReplyDeletelolololol! So true and thank you!
ReplyDeleteSaying you're welcome is a lost art too! But thank you!
ReplyDeleteAs soon as they stop thanking you, that's when you stop. That's good advice!
ReplyDeleteThank you. Thank you. Thank you. People don't say it or mean it enough!
ReplyDeleteThank u mocha!
ReplyDeleteThank you is only 2 words! Why is that so hard!?
ReplyDeleteWhat a great post! Thank you so much for bringing up such valid points. I think this elitist attitude that people have makes nice people regretful and bitter. I see it and feel it sometimes when I hold open a door for a stranger or say bless you after they sneeze. People just don't say thank you so it makes me do less nice things.
ReplyDeleteDon't change who you are but don't let these kind of people off the hook either. Let them know!
ReplyDeleteThank you!
ReplyDeleteThank you!
ReplyDeleteSelfish people do make you change. Even if you don't want to or meant to you end up more guarded and careful with whim you share your niceness. Thank you for this!
ReplyDeleteHaaaaaaaa! What a great piece! Thanks!
ReplyDeleteThank you, Mocha!
ReplyDeleteGreat post!
ReplyDeleteyes ma'am! I will thank them then thank you! lmao!
ReplyDeleteThank you!
ReplyDeleteWow you make some valid points and I understand what you mean by expecting at least a thank you. That is the minimum and if you were raised that should be something that automatically comes out of your mouth.
ReplyDeleteThis needed to be said. Plain & simple. We have to start appreciating what we do for each other. Throw the damm narcissistic posturing out of the window!
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